Experiencing failure or encountering rejection can make you doubt your capacity to succeed. You will feel like all your efforts have gone to waste. At the same time, it will be easy on your part to give up. Take note that this is only typical for someone who has suffered from a downfall. However, it does not mean that your situation will not change. If there is one vital thing that you have to remind yourself, it is the fact that you have the power to improve or change the course of your life. Your failures do not define who you are as a person.
In this article, we are going to talk about the different ways on how an author like you can handle rejection from a publishing company, from a mentor or even from your potential readers. You have to master these useful and practical tips:
Cry Your Heart Out
The first thing that you must do is to feel all the negative things associated with rejection. Do not prevent yourself from experiencing the sorrow from what happened. Instead, give yourself a chance to grieve from the recent failure in your writing career. Cry your heart out for days until you get tired of doing it. “Contrary to the beliefs of some, crying is an important component of mental health and wellness. The benefits of crying are often unrecognized, overlooked and under- appreciated, as it can be good for us both psychologically and physiologically.” Karen Doll, Psy.D., L.P emphasized. Nonetheless, it does not mean that you will stay the same for the rest of your life. Let all your emotions out, but be sure to bounce back from the rejection.
Go Easy On Yourself
Stop pressuring yourself so that you will still have the drive to move forward with your life. Never make the wrong move or mistake of comparing yourself with the other authors who have reached the peak of their careers. Avoid comparing your progress with their progress. Keep in mind several factors can affect what you are going through in life. Do everything at your own pace. Believe that you will achieve your goals in the future. Just because it is not happening now does not mean that it will never happen. Note that “The sensation of pressure doesn’t have to be negative—it can be a positive challenge and motivating.” Alicia H. Clark, Psy.D. said.
Take A Break
Sometimes, all it takes is to choose to enjoy a moment to rest. Go on a vacation and enjoy the adventures that life has to offer. Stop trying too hard because it will only break your heart. Taking a break from your usual routine will give you an opportunity to think well about the direction where you are going. A quick break from your work or writing gig can restore your passion for the book industry. Keep on dreaming, but do not deprive yourself of the rest that you deserve.
Talk About It
Never be afraid to open up about the rejection that you experienced. The more you deny it to yourself, the longer you can recover from the recent failure that you experienced. All you have to do is to discuss what you feel about the rejection to the people whom you trust. Take note that you do not need to reveal all the details or information to the other person. The mere act of talking is already therapeutic, which means that it can be beneficial for you.
Continue The Journey
As already emphasized above, the mere fact that you encountered rejection does not mean that it is the end of your career. You still have a long way to go, which is the primary reason why you must make an effort to go on with your journey. Do not stop writing just because you fell for the first time. Find more inspiration that will motivate you to keep going. Always keep your eyes on the prize. You will succeed, but before it can happen, you must first believe in your skills and abilities.
“If your intention is to live a meaningful and healthy life, you will make decisions that support this intention, and feel good about yourself when you succeed in this purpose.” That’s according to Deborah Khoshaba Psy.D. Note that rejection does not define who you are. Keep moving forward.